I think many people struggle with time management. There’s just so much to do and not enough time…or so it seems.
You see, time is essentially an illusion.
But then again it’s not because most of us work jobs or have schedules that make it seem otherwise.
And of course our time here is limited and we can never get time that has passed back, which is why it’s so important to manage it.
I’m gonna toot my own horn for a second because I’m pretty proud of the things that I juggle. I’m not the most productive person I will admit, but for years I’ve been able to manage and stay on top of a number of things.
Here’s what I did before:
- Work full-time, 6:30-3 M-F
- Commute to and from work (about 2 hours total, sometimes less, usually more)
- Workout 6 times a week, about 1.5 hours each day
- Eat healthy meals by meal prepping EVERY single Sunday
- I am a blogger (1 post/week + multiple blogging tasks)
- I am a YouTuber (1 video/week)
- I have a boyfriend
- I meditate and read regularly (just about daily)
- My day to day tasks include: dishes, laundry, feeding/walking our dogs, cleaning my room, grocery shopping, staying on top of bills, e-mails, trying to post more on Instagram, planning content, etc.
Here’s what I do now (Updated January 2020):
- Work full-time, 7-3 M-F, sometimes more or less depending on the day
- Workout 6 times a week, about 45 minutes to 1 hour each time
- Eat healthy meals by meal prepping every Sunday
- Blog (1 post/week, 1 e-mail/week, multiple blogging tasks)
- YouTube (2 videos/week)
- I am a discipline/productivity coach (varies/week)
- I have a boyfriend
- I meditate, journal, and read regularly
- My day to day tasks include: dishes, laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, staying on top of bills, e-mails, planning content, responding to comments, promoting content, etc.
I know my lifestyle isn’t for everyone. I work, work out, then work on my side hustles when I’m home. I know my life may seem boring, but this is what I want. I do this to work toward my goals.
Some people want to live a life working the 9-5 and coming home to relax and watch tv.
That’s completely fine if that makes you happy!!
That’s not what I want though. And if that’s not what you want then gaining control of your time is 100% necessary.
Here’s how to manage it all:
Fill two needs with one deed
Optimize your time by combining certain tasks. This doesn’t necessarily mean multi-tasking because that may be counter productive.
If there are a couple of things that can be done simultaneously without problem, then do them together!
These are my real life examples:
-I used to attend a weekly meditation class (social, spirituality) with my mom (relationships)
-During my commute (necessity) I listen to podcasts or motivational audio (personal development) OR I’ll talk to my boyfriend on the phone (relationships)
-While I do cardio at the gym (staying fit) I’ll catch up on YouTube videos (recreation/fun)
-While I fold laundry (day to day tasks) I’ll watch YouTube videos (recreation/fun) or talk on the phone (relationships)
-While I meal prep (eating healthy) I listen to or watch educational/motivational videos (personal development)
-I also use my lunch break to work on my online business sometimes.
Over the years and as my life changes, I’ve been able to optimize my time more. Combining these things usually makes life more enjoyable anyway.
Get self-disciplined
Self-discipline takes effort and time to develop.
It’s not always easy, however it’s necessary if you want to take your life to a different level.
I think a lot of people get motivation, willpower, and discipline confused. They are all separate and when it comes down to it, motivation and willpower mean nothing.
Motivation and willpower don’t last or work. How many times do you get super motivated to work out or wake up early but when it comes to it you don’t show up at the gym or you hit the snooze button?
With self-discipline you correct and regulate your behavior to get shit done, even if you don’t feel like it.
The moments when you really don’t feel like doing something but you make yourself do it anyway, that’s what will make you grow.
You’ll become more driven, more dedicated, you’ll pick up better habits, and you’ll gain more confidence in yourself.
Check out my self-discipline course OR 1:1 self-discipline coaching.
Make commitments
If you struggle with self-discipline, a good way to improve that is to make commitments and/or do something that will make you more likely do whatever it is you need to do.
If you book a trainer you have to go workout, otherwise you’re disrespecting their time and you’ll probably receive a fee.
If you join a book club, it’s not necessarily a full on commitment, but you’ll probably enjoy it and not want to miss out. You will be reading and engaging in social activities on a regular basis.
This is one reason why I used to attend a weekly meditation class. I was able to learn and practice my spirituality plus I get to interact with like-minded people.
If you’re a blogger/freelance worker you can set deadlines and even make them public to your readers or to whoever it may be.
You’ll be way more motivated to complete something if other people are expecting it from you. You’ll gain discipline in no time.
Get into a routine/Schedule tasks
As someone with a “Type A” personality I thrive off of routine, planning, lists, schedules, and predictability. That is exactly why I generally live my life by routine.
This doesn’t work for everyone because we’re all different, but it’s definitely what has allowed me to do more each day.
Wake up at the same time, have clothes laid out and your lunch packed, leave by a certain time, plan your day, write a to-do list, etc.
It’s those little details of each day that lead to big changes in your life.
Something I started doing recently that has been working really well is scheduling certain themes for specific days.
I have 2-3 hours every day to work on my side hustles so I’ve decided that Mondays and Tuesdays will be for editing and uploading YouTube videos (+creating a thumbnail and writing a description, brainstorming more video ideas).
Wednesday is for working through courses/learning.
Thursday – Sunday is for writing blog posts mostly, but once I complete a post I’ll move on to designing multiple Pinterest images, brainstorming ideas, outlining another blog post, etc.
I get distracted very easily and I’m the type of person to be working on multiple things at one time.
Before scheduling like this I would edit a video for a bit then start a new blog post then pin a little bit then it would be bed time and I really didn’t get anything accomplished.
Now, I don’t allow myself to work on anything EXCEPT those tasks for the day and I’ve been WAY more productive and consistent. This style of scheduling can be applied to anything in your life…cleaning, school work, clients, etc.
Outside of my work/side hustles, my Saturday afternoons and evenings are typically spent with my boyfriend and my Sundays are for meal prepping, cleaning, and getting everything ready for the week.
Similarly, routines set you up for success.
For example, waking up early and on time will allow you to squeeze in things that you enjoy during the first couple hours of your day (meditating, reading, getting ready without rushing, slowly sipping your coffee).
Or going to the gym right after work removes the temptation to relax at home.
These routines build habits and you’ll only get better at them!
Opportunity cost/Sacrifices
Life will never be 100% balanced. That’s just reality. If you want to focus on something specific in your life, other areas will likely receive less attention.
As Gary Keller wrote in The One Thing, “Extraordinary results require focused attention and time. Time on one thing means time away from another. This makes balance impossible.”
For me I don’t spend much time doing “recreational/fun” activities. Why? I would rather be blogging or editing to work toward my future. That is something I willingly sacrifice, I’ve come to accept, and actually prefer.
If you want to lose weight you’re gonna have to spend more time at the gym and less time drinking/eating out with friends.
If you want to run your own business you’re gonna have to give up watching tv all the time and scrolling through social media.
If you want to travel the world, you’ll probably sacrifice a lot of time with family/friends.
What sacrifices are you willing to make to get what you want? That’s the important question here.
If it takes less than five minutes, do it
This simple rule has been a life changer for me. If I notice I am procrastinating on something I think to myself, “No that’ll take a couple minutes, just do it.” And then I do it.
Some examples:
- washing the dishes right after using them
- taking the trash out
- emptying out your gym bag
- packing your gym bag
- making the bed
- lay out your work/gym clothes for the next morning
- responding to an e-mail
- tidying your room
These tasks may seem so minuscule and unimportant, but living by this rule does a couple of things for you:
1) you’ll gain more confidence and trust in YOURSELF because you’re getting these things done and not allowing yourself to push them off
and
2) you’re making your life so much easier by just getting whatever it is out of the way.
Have you ever been running late one morning and you’re about to pour your coffee into your travel mug to only realize that it’s sitting in your growing pile of dirty dishes from yesterday? What if you would have just washed them?
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Time is one of our most valuable assets. You can never get it back and we are limited on how much is left.
Manage your time how YOU want to live your life.
If you’re working toward a certain goal that’s going to require everything I just mentioned. Juggling all areas of life is a challenge, but it will pay off in the long run!
If you’re still needing some time management advice, I suggest you read my new post where I share a few hard truths about time management!
I imagine you are in your younger years of life, but your wisdom speaks beyond that!
Thank you 🙂
Yes I am 25! And thank you so much!! 🙂
When I was 25 I was so self deciplined, motivated and just had grit! I changed since then… I lost it. I need it back! Thank you for your motivational post – makes me want to get it back!
Glad this motivated you! Thank you for reading 🙂
Same!?
This is a great post!!!
You are very motivated, have ambition and are very organized. As you grow these are so important. However, I was very curious from the beginning and also realized you have a boyfriend and not a Husband and no kids. Not to say it’s a bad thing. It was hard for me to related bc those “extras” ? are very demanding as well as to fit everything else in.
As brought out, self discipline is the pivotal aspect and along with self motivation and strong will power, one can manage time effectively and enjoy the daily life. Well written. You nailed it. ??
Thank you so much I appreciate that!!
This is so great! I just did a post on how to use the law of sustainability to piggy-back multiple goals on top of one another. This is right up that line of thought! Rad.
Yesssss your post is awesome! It’s kind of incredible how it works like that. It’s definitely not easy but with goals you really want to achieve it just becomes part of you! Thanks for reading 🙂
Very interesting read! We seem very like-minded. I must point out, though, and I’m sorry that I’m this kind of person… it should be, “What if you would HAVE just washed them?”
Love the content, though!
Thank you for reading! And lol no worries I would rather have correct grammar, going to fix it now! 🙂
Great post, motivational……..I look forward to another post by you after adding kids to the mix???. This takes life to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL of multitasking that may blow your mind.
My thoughts exactly. The “free time” above is such a luxury. Your time is no longer your own.
My thoughts exactly. 1.5 hours at the gym? Yeah not going to happen. Lovely motivational post and all very true, until you have kids
I encourage you to read my new blog post 🙂 –> https://www.livinglikeleila.com/the-truth-about-time-management/
And I see many parents workout for 1.5 hours or more, there are gyms with daycares.
Making things part of a daily routine is so key to ensuring they happen! I can definitely relate to that. You are an inspiration!
Yes it’s a must! Thank you so much for reading and your kind words!! 🙂
Thank you so much for writing this. It must be karma that this came up on my feed today because I have been stuggling with time management in my very busy life and your words add great perspective. I will definitely employ some of these tactics!
Thank you for letting me know and for reading! Time management is definitely not easy but I’m glad you found my post to be helpful. Best of luck to you! 🙂
What a great post! So glad I stumbled across this. You’ve not written anything that I didn’t really know already but you have written in a way that has really made think about my time management, made me stop and look at why I am not getting things done. I particularly love the way you’ve separated Motivation, Willpower and self-discipline. I’ll be saving this post to refer back to.
Thank you so much! I’m glad you perceived it that way! This stuff is my passion so I really enjoyed writing this post. And yes, for years I thought everything required willpower, but I’ve definitely learned that it doesn’t always work! Thanks again 🙂
Love this! Totally down-to-earth and no-nonsense 🙂 have been struggling a bit lately with many things happening at once but I think getting back into my routine will make a world of a difference! Especially going back to focusing on certain things on different days is huge… really make a world of a difference. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂
Thank you so much Juliana! Having my routine has helped so, so much. It’s less stressful and easier to focus on the task at hand. Thanks for reading 🙂
I’m curious though… when you established your routine, did you did it from one day to the next or more gradually? Depending on the area (healthy eating, working out…), both approaches have worked for me, but with work and blogging it’s been way more difficult. Not sure why…
I’m not sure if I’m answering your question correctly but my blogging/youtube routine kind of just stuck right away. A few months I got really passionate about my online platforms all over again so I planned out a schedule and just kept at it. Of course there are several days that I miss and/or do different tasks if necessary.
I’ve been blogging for years though and I was never able to get into a good routine until my job became a set routine (working 6:30-3).
Blogging and filming were also hard for me because they take a lot of brain power. Working a long shift or not sleeping well would make me put off writing or other work. Then, I realized I REALLY don’t want to work for people anymore and working toward my dreams is a must. That’s what did it for me.
Hopefully that makes sense. Please let me know if I didn’t answer your question though! Lol 🙂
This totally makes sense. The work routine definitely has a huge impact on me too. Since I recently shifted to being a full-time freelancer it’s been easier to manage my time but of course there are still days where things are upside down… Still adjusting to this new level of flexibility and hope to soon make the most of it.
I also understand what you mean about blogging etc taking a lot of brainpower. If your job required you to do similar work, it can be sooo hard to sit down after hours to do the same thing again for your own projects…
Anyway, thank you so much for taking the time to respond in depth and keep up your amazing work! I’m sure it’s helping so many get closer to their goals!
This is so great !!!! I wish I had your motivation before I had children! I imagine the discipline would make mothering so much easier !!
Thank you Kayla! I too wish I was like this years ago. I’m not a mom (just a dog mom lol) so I can’t help much there :/ But hopefully you can still develop discipline in a way that works for you 🙂
I do many of these things. I struggle with the to do list, paper doesn’t fit in and I haven’t found my fit in an app. What do you use for your 2-do list?
I’ve tried many forms of to-do lists. I’ve found that I hate online tools/apps and I always return back to my planner or just pen and a notebook! I’m currently using the “My Next 90 Days Planner” from Savor Success. It’s always satisfying for me to cross off each task once I complete it 🙂
Now we just need one for those of us with kids and pets in jobs and lives that are totally unpredictable from one day to the next where you are at rock bottom and have no support and then we can all benefit
Well, I’m sorry my post doesn’t apply to you, but time management/productivity definitely starts with mindset. A negative outlook on life never got anyone anywhere. I do not have children, however that is my choice and I do what I need to, to prevent having children. I’ve had jobs with random schedules, but I still tried my best to work on my side hustles, workout, etc. during the hours that I could. I didn’t start my current job until this past April. Nothing is impossible. MANY people have overcome very difficult obstacles in their life. Plus, there are SO many moms out there who do just as much as I do! If you search around maybe you could find a post more relevant to your lifestyle 🙂 Best of luck!
I agree with you Charlotte, this is a great post and sounds awesome on paper but when you have a husband and children then life is unpredictable. Good info for a foundation. You Just need to find what works for you and your family.
Life is unpredictable even without those things. This absolutely is a key foundation piece that can be tailored to any lifestyle. As Leila pointed out in a previous comment, she knows moms who do just as much as she does. As do I. Single moms in fact that run circles around other. My child goes to crossfit with me, I run my own business, I am in college, and still make time for my horses, dog and significant other. And no, neither of us come from money or have anything being handed to us. We just know how to manage our time, be flexible when things come up, and be open minded enough to see all the possibilities.
Agreed! Kids change EVERYTHING as they should. I have a spouse but no additional support such as parents or childcare as well with 3 amazing kids. My time is spent dedicated to them, two jobs, and whatever emergencies happen lol! I think you may giggle at this article a little when you read it later in life. Very sweet!
This is great! Exactly along the lines that I have been thinking/needing to hear recently. I’m just ow jumping into a new schedule of 3 Youtube videos/2 blog posts a week! I have dabbled with scheduling certain days with certain tasks but I may revisit that again!
Wow 3 videos!! I find videos to definitely be the hardest to maintain weekly! Do you work outside of blogging and YouTube? Thank you for reading though and hopefully a schedule will help you! 🙂
I love your post! So inspirational, especially since we’re about the same age. Do you have any tips for someone like myself whose schedule changed every week? Some days I need to be at work at 9, other days I stay until 10, and some rare nights I have to stay until 2 in the morning. Keeping a sleep schedule is a bit difficult for me, but I wonder if you have any tips for an inconsistent work schedule? Thank you!!
I used to work a random schedule as well and to be honest finally getting a set schedule has been life changing. I know sleep can be the hardest part too, but I would say always put sleep first. Personally, I can function pretty well with 6 – 6.5 hours of sleep. So if you can sleep a set amount each day even if the time varies, you can still get a good bit done. Of course prioritize what is most important to you and then once you know your work schedule for the coming week(s), see where you can fit in an hour or two of whatever it is you want to do. And be sure to write it down!! I’ve always seen my life in “seasons.” When I was in grad school I was a student full time, working 2 jobs, working out, and trying to be a youtuber/blogger. During that time, I prioritized the first 3 things, and just fit in blogging/youtube when I could. Of course my business didn’t grow much, but I was still building a small platform and working toward something I was passionate about. If possible, maybe search for a new job with a better schedule or see if you could start flipping items or something on the side to earn more money so you could get a part-time job or lower paying job (with a better schedule) OR you could even find a job that allows you flexibility. For example, a personal trainer could workout WITH the person they’re training. I used to work front desk at an urgent care (12 hour shifts) and when it was slow I would blog, learn something, pin on Pinterest etc. lol.
Sorry so long! Just a couple ideas, but hopefully that helps! 🙂
Awesome post. Really liked it. Lot of aspects for holistic individual growth are covered in a single post. Thank you. Keep writing.
Thank you for reading! 🙂
I totally agree with your approach I am a busy mum of 4 we and run 3 companies, I take 6 hours of classical ballet classes a week, my husband and kids train in Taekwondo ( junior European champions and hubby was British Champion until injury stopped him.) Our home has 23 rooms including martial arts gym and dance studio we don’t have a cleaner or gardener we all help. We are successful have Ferrari’s Bentley and a Porsche plus 7 other classic cars.
In our view having superior organisational skills IS the key to life. Many people are shocked when they hear we don’t have household staff, but my husband built our home himself and no one else will look after it the way we do.
You will go far in life with this attitude xxxxx (It is just after 7am Sunday morning here and my internet pleasure hour)
That’s amazing! Thanks for reading and the encouragement 🙂
I didn’t really read the whole article, but apparently you don’t have any kids yet? Let me know how you get all that done when you have a couple kids. But congrats!
I do not have kids, nor do I want them. No where in my post did I say, “How to manage it all: with kids,” but I do know of other people who manage many things with multiple kids. Gotta just find a routine that works for your lifestyle!
If you have children, you can still accomplish these things. It just means time management and critical thinking are even more paramount. I know plenty of single moms that figured out how to workout, keep their home tidy, go back to college, work, and be a quality parent. If you think this is not doable, then perhaps an attitude adjustment and ditching excuses are a good starting point. Poor attitude and excuses stop us from seeing all of the possibilities available to us.
Whoa, this article came into my path in just the right time! Thanks for writing this!
Thank you for reading! 🙂
Do you go to the gym to workout or at home?
Also, do you work out in the morning before work?
I go to the gym straight after work! Sometimes on Sunday’s I’ll just run outside but I prefer the gym. I wish I could do at least cardio before work but my schedule starts too early for that to be possible right now!
Wow I love this! This is the push I needed to get my mind on track. Where focus goes – energy flows
So glad you found it helpful! Thanks for reading 🙂
Leila, thank you for the smart insights! I especially like the realization you shared on how dividing projects by days to avoid skipping around on them was helpful for you. I am definitely guilty of doing that myself… then being frustrated because I don’t feel like I am correctly meeting my time line goals.
Side note: not that you dont already know this… dont let the people using their kids as an excuse trash talk your content. I’m a new mom and I still find your articles highly applicable to my life. It goes straight back to the self-discipline and organizing priorities.
Thank you so much!! I read your other comments as well and I’m glad you can be an example of having a child and still juggling a lot. Thank you for reading and the encouragement <3
I really enjoyed your post. It helps to know when you’re not the only one struggling & juggling life! I work, I Blog 1 – 2 times per week, starting a newsletter with tips & tricks, raising a puppy ?, etc Cheers!
Thank you so much! Newsletters are honestly the hardest part about blogging for me. Just checked out your blog and it looks great 🙂
This was an inspiring post! I’m more of a type B personality, but I admire the discipline that comes with someone that is type A. I liked many of your suggestions and will definitely try a few. (Also, I have a 13 year old daughter named Leila that sounds just like you!! Lol)
Thank you! And that’s so cool 🙂 Most people don’t spell it like us!
Very good article! You are so right about self discipline, scheduling, and prioritizing. They are key and all three are equally important.
They’re like a three legged stool, without each one, progress isn’t made. Very motivational article. So practical! And you have such a good attitude, which isn’t surprising.
Thank you so much!! ❤
Love this post, and your blog! I really resonate with you, as a single mom who also works full time, is in school part-time, blogs for fun, works out, eats healthy, has 3 side hustles and a dog lol. It’s busy and sometimes I get exhausted, but I try to just listen to my body and take a pause when I’m burnt out. I haven’t had a vacation in a long time, so that’s something I’m gonna start working into my life more so I stay energized! Thanks for all the awesome tips xoxo
That’s amazing! Sounds like you’re doing great. And yes I tend to get overwhelmed/burnt out if I don’t step back sometimes. Thank you for reading and your kind words ?❤
Hi Leila! I am so happy to have landed on this post of yours through Pinterest. And this post was such a fruitful and sound read. I have read so many posts on this, with catchy lines, but have never gotten to read the content this much full of quality content. Thank you so much for sharing your routine with us. It was really helpful and exactly the guide I was looking for. Love and power to you.
Wow thank you so much!! I’m glad you found it helpful ?❤
Love your enthusiasm. Sounds like, though, you are exposing yourself to a tremendous amount of radiation each day (especially with 5g).
Hi Martine,
I’m a bit confused as to how I am exposing myself to radiation, could you explain??
Thank you ?
I really enjoyed your blog and personally relate to most of what you have stated. I totally agree that Time is an illusion and feel it is our biggest asset as well as liability (depending on how you look at it and also how you utilize it).
Thank you so much!! 🙂
This is so inspirational. Im just wondering though, do you sacrifice sleep?
Thank you! And no not really! I go to bed around 9:30 and wake up at 4:30 during the week. So I usually get 6.5-7 hours of sleep. I would prefer more but it works. I sleep 7-8 hours on the weekends!
I’m grateful for coming across this…I needed to see this…Thank you
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment to let me know that! 🙂
I did red your article, but I didn’t find, or at least, I didn’t notice anywhere, mentioning your job’s profession… Is it something you enjoy? Is it something you hate? Are you an employee? Freelancer?
You see, I have a (I assume) completely different pov about time and how you decide to spent it to the point you are satisfied.
p.s Your post was sent to me and proposed for reading by my girlfriend (my life partner actually), cause she found it interesting. She believed that by reading this, maybe I could understand some of her “way of thinking” aspects.
I am an employee! I am a microbiologist and spend most of my work day in a lab. It’s definitely a great job, but it’s not my passion. I went to school for it, but my ultimate goal is to become a full-time blogger. My job allows me to make an income while I work on growing my side hustles. I struggle with working the standard “9-5,” trading my time for money, working for someone else, etc. but I’m so very grateful for the position I do have.
What is your point of view about time if you don’t mind sharing? 🙂
Tell her thanks for sending it to you 🙂
Well I find really interesting your profession. Maybe you are not in research and development section that makes it far more interesting and creative. From the above sentence, I believe you can start figuring out what’s my pov. Making it clearer, I’m trying to say that for me personally, if you don’t find something in your life that you want to be passionated about, boredom will grow every single day. And boredom, could get you to depression. You said that your goal is to become a full-time blogger. Ok… Talking about what? And most important, how well would you know what you are talking about? You ‘ll post articles about many things but, what depth of your personal knowledge would be there? How reliable your opinion would be? You ll talk about something as a specialist? As a researcher, as an observer?
“Scratching the surface on everything won’t let you live the depth of an interesting life”.
One more thought… Since this is your own webpage… It would help alot if you would turn it to a dark theme cause white background fatigues our eyes.
Let me share a print screen of a dark theme I applied through a browser plug in…
https://i.postimg.cc/qRZvWbxn/opera-printscreen.png
I completely agree with your post….however when someone is dealing with depression and anxiety sometimes the easiest of tasks becomes difficult.
Sure, but the main problem of depression is a mind that has lost its sight with the big picture of its goals.
Meaning is the ultimate invention of the human brain. Meaning is like an endlessly hungry animal… Always needs more… If you struggle to survive – in physical and pathological terms, you really don’t differ from the rest animal kingdom. Once you calm and become a civilized human, you have to face until you die, Meaning. Staying on the surface of the things and beings around you, depression is waiting on the corner.
I am a musician and I sell music for media. I have understood that most of the marketing area that needs music, needs a motivational, upbeat, inspiring kinda music. Outside of the market, you ll see that even todays discography is full of motivational, upbeat, energetic music. Even Leila said that while she is doin something, sometimes she watches motivational/educational videos.
And do you really want my thinking?… Well, that’s sad. Young people from 18 to even 28, struggling to get away from depression. Needing meaningless videos and music to forget that they have to face “meaning”.
Meaning is your oxygen for you brain. You shouldn’t run away from it with trashy music and soulless – so called arts.
And the good quality of it, is when you are passionated with something. And you can be passionated with something when you are falling in love with it. The kind of erotic love. Not the love you give to your mom or the carrying one. I mean the Erotic love that makes your heart beat to the rhythm of Chaos, not Order. And the erotic love, do not misunderstand me, is not about 2 people… Is about an idea. I’m greek and in Greek we have 2 different words and meanings about LOVE. Love like the one you give to the people you care about which is called “Aghapi” and “Erotas” which comes from “Eros” and that falling in love with someone or something.
I only just stopped laughing at this post after ten minutes or so. I’ve never read such self-indulgent tripe in all my life. Get back to me when you have kids. If you don’t have a family you don’t know what tiredness is. Time management my backside.
Well… you took the time to read my post, laugh at it for 10 minutes, and leave a negative comment. Maybe use that time more effectively next time? ?
One of my friends shared this blog link today..
And m glad to read this… I do most of the things already..but realized only after reading this… Other things I will definitely give a try and post my experiences here…thanks for a nice blog.. I will read your other posts too…have a great day… thanks..
That’s awesome!! Thank you so much for reading 🙂
This is great for you! Totally unrealistic with 3 babies though. I’m just looking forward to the day they are all sleeping through the night and can wipe their own butts! ?
This has been one of the most helpful articles. Thank you!
Yay! I’m glad it was helpful, thank you for reading!! 🙂
Your post is amazing but i cant follow it as i have an 8 month old child and all plans multi tasking this that fails in front on him 🙁
The only thing i want right now for myself is to manage sometime for workout and healthy eating but im not able to do that. If you have any link of a super mother woman or know someone like that please share. That will help me. Thanks
Wow amazing. I do think different MBTI personality types need to manage their energy differently to be productive. It sounds like you found your specific jam though to be productive. Good for you!
I definitely agree! Thank you 🙂
You , yea you , are awesome 😉
Thank you! 🙂
I read a lot of articles and posts about things you spoke about. Most of them I feel are very basic and simple. Your post was very well written/explained and I benefited greatly from it. Thank you girl for your wisdom! I will be referencing your post many more times.
Thank you so much Veronica! 🙂
Thank you Leila for this amazing post. I’m definitely sharing it. Only God knows how I needed this. I hope to come back here by the end of 2019 to tell you I made it because of you. Happy holidays
Thank you so much! You’re gonna make me cry ? that’s awesome!! Best of luck to you! ?
Hi, Leila!
I found this post on Pinterest. Your concrete tips are motivating, so thank you. I am not sure why I scrolled through the comments, but found myself becoming defensive for you over the negative feedback from parents. I am a Mom of two older kids, so I’ve been where those folks are, but the fact that they downgraded your way of living to make themselves feel better does not imply a lack of perspective your part. No one person can write universally about concrete topics like this since we are all in different seasons of life, but that should not silence people from sharing what works for them. Even parents with young children can implement at least one change, if it’s important enough to them. Also, regarding Manos’s comment suggesting that you need to speak deeply and expertly in order to have anything valid to share is his preference, not Truth. You are an expert of your own life and experiences, and sharing those helps fellow sojourners improve theirs. As for the ridiculous comment by Mike Hunt, I applauded your response, girlfriend! People who take full responsibility for their own choices and development, and who focus sharply on playing well the hand they’re dealt will inevitably receive criticism from those who won’t.
Just wanted to encourage you; Happy 2019!
Elizabeth,
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a kind comment. I still get mean/negative comments on this post but I have realized that I can’t please everyone, and I can’t change a fixed opinion. I just delete them now or don’t respond ?
I’m grateful for people like you who understand my post/my life. Thank you so much again and Happy 2019 to you as well! ❤❤
I have taken notes of all of them. I must say that we are almost the same but I must admit that launching a blog six months ago made me put everyday workout on the side. My cheeks have become rounder. lol I will try harder to commit to fitness and find balance. This is what I need to read this morning. =)
So exciting that you started a blog! It definitely takes a lot of time/work so I can understand that other parts of your life become less of a priority. I hope you find your way back into fitness! Best of luck ?
Hi,
I read your article and some of the comments… Thank you for posting this – I don’t agree that having kids is an excuse to not be organized or accomplished in life. I have 2 kids, a full time job, a house and a yard I attend, I am becoming a spin instructors, I am a triathlete, half-marathon runner, a blogger and I have a social life, while sleeping 8 hours a week and a husband that travel 5 days of the week. How do I do it all? the same way you wrote in the blog – self-discipline, commitment, organization. That is the key. Yes – some things will get less attention when you are focus in others. But I don’t run triathlons every season of the year, and I don’t blog every day, and I don’t go out with my friends for drinks every day. Everything has its time. It is called ‘prioritize’.
Thanks for being an inspiration!
Mariella,
This is awesome!! Thank you for sharing all you do. My post was meant to share practical tips, unfortunately some people see them as impossible so I’m glad you can be an example 🙂
Hands down one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read. The struggle is so, so real with managing a million things but you are bang on! ?Thank you for this!!!!
Thank you so much!! 🙂
I really love this and super motivating
Thank you so much, glad you like it 🙂
This is exactly what I needed to read right now. So helpful and straightforward. Thank you!!
That’s awesome, thanks for reading Meredith! 🙂
I loved this post cus I’m totally like that. Doing 1000 things in life… loved your tips. Thank you for sharing that!
Thanks so much Jeni 🙂
This is so helpful! I don’t do enough now but I love hearing how people handle full time jobs, blogging relationships and all that. Very inspirational! Thank you for sharing <3
— Kiki | soyvirgo.com
Thanks so much Kiki! 🙂
Awesome tips, loved the “if it takes 5 minutes just do it” that will be a life changing habit! However, including kids in the equation change everything. I’m wondering if there are some moms of young kids who manage to keep up with such a life style! Personally waking up several times a night makes me dull and exhausted :/ time ia flying though so I’m making the best of it 🙂
It’s pretty impressive how much you accomplish. I’m especially in awe of the fact that you work, have a blog, go to the gym and manage to make time for a boyfriend (I’m still struggling to fit the gym into my schedule).
Thanks for the tips. Definitely going to try it out
Thanks so much Shanice! Good luck and you got this!! 🙂
Great post and advice
Thanks Danielle 🙂
Hi leila, great post i really resonated with it, i know i need to get more disciplined and this post gives good guidance. You should check out human design system, i have a feeling you’re a manifesting generator. Now im off to read the time management post 🙂
Thank you Debbie!
Just looked it up briefly and looks SO fascinating, I’ll definitely be reading up on it and getting my chart 🙂
Great points and surely adaptable to different live styles! When I was 25 I had 3 kids and two were under two, so my life surely looked different and still does. But I really like the guidelines you speak about! Thanks!
Wow I can’t imagine having 3 kids ay my age!! ? Thank you for the kind comment Sharon!!
Awesome post! I’m currently juggling a similar schedule working from 7am – 3:30pm, posting blogs 1 time per week, exercising regularly, eating healthy, caring for pets, balancing relationships, etc. it goes on and on. I love your perspective on time management, and this post not only made me more determined to manage it all better, but also more appreciative of what I’m already accomplishing (I already listen to blogging podcasts during my commute, watch fun/informative YouTube videos while exercising, and more). While it’s important to manage your time well, it’s also important to recognize the little multitasking wins you’re already achieving 🙂
Your life literally sounds exactly like mine! Lol and yes you are so right. I have to remind myself constantly that I’m doing better than I think because sometimes I feel like I’m not doing enough!
Thank you! ?
Great post! I will be following your advice for be more productive and achieve what I want ^^ Thank you for sharing 😀
Thank you so much Sarah!! 🙂
Leila – I love this post and completely agree with your mentality mindset and discipline! My big thing that I preach is setting your priorities. When people say they don’t have time for the gym or time to work on their side hustle, they usually do but instead just spend that time on something they prioritize more, whether that’s tv, social media, Netflix, etc.
I love how you combine multiple priorities together, i.e. watch Netflix on a cardio machine at the gym. The 5 minute rule is awesome and i’ll be adopting that!
Exactly! I think most people aren’t aware of what they actually spend their time doing. Thank you so much!! 🙂
I love routines! Its what has totally saved my life from feeling like I’m doing too much or not doing enough. I’ve never thought about combing certain routines before though like laundry and relationship. I’ll have to look more into that. Thanks for sharing!
Yes routine is the best even though sometimes I complain about getting bored lol. Thank you for reading 🙂
look so easy on you, i will try, thank for your blog post….
Thank you for reading! 🙂
Spot on!!!! Thank you!❤️❤️??
Thanks for reading 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts through this post! I feel so identified with you, as I’m also in the process of becoming more organized with my job, my blogging and consultancy business, plus being fit and healthy. As a health entrepreneur I live by this, and I try to lead by example. Being self-disciplined and organized is the most important rule to move forward towards a succesful life. Kudos! Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much for reading Zola! And yess self-discipline is key. You keep up the good work as well! 🙂
Thank you for sharing such vital needed information that empowers and teaches people survival life skills not to mention management skills.
I was impressed and empowered reading about the management tools, easy to follow and want to continue to read.
Keep it coming.
Thank you so much! 🙂
Damn, this is such a good blog post. I loved all the tips and will use them in the future. These are changes that I actually can imagine doing in my life and I love that you share your own real life experiences with us.
Thanks for sharing. <3
Thank you so much! ?
Great Post Leila! It’s sad to see so many negative “Oh you obviously don’t have kids” in the comments. I have two kids that were definitely not planned and made time management even more important!! I worked, went to school, kept house, always had dinner on the table, And always incorporated keeping them entertained while I was doing what I needed to do. Didn’t believe in having a sitter anymore than absolutely necessary. Now they are very driven college students with great time management skills themselves! And when /if you do decide to have children the time management you have already mastered will come in handy! I actually came across you blog because now that my children are off to college, I was thinking about starting my own. And I have gotten a little lax in my time management, your post was the perfect reminder of what I need to do to get back on track!! Keep killing Girl!
Thank you so much Tiffani! Unfortunately I’ve had to delete a lot of comments regarding that. Thank you for sharing your journey with children and time management, another example that it is possible!
And how exciting! Blogging is fun I hope you end up creating one 😊 best of luck.
This is all good training for if you EVER have children. I was you once. And now, I have 3 kids. And, at times, I feel I have lost myself or I am striving for a perfection with balance that doesn’t exist. Nice to read someone who is motivated. Kinda helps remind me I can still keep trying to be the best NEW me.
Thank you! Time management will look different at all stages of life, I still get overwhelmed or lose balance in life without kids!
Love this. I am going to try it out.
Thank you! Update me on how it goes! 😊🙏
I really enjoyed this post. We think similarly in a lot of areas, especially when it comes to time usage. I just started implementing the 5-minute rule and it’s been SO helpful. Something so simple but so impactful. I also love how you included the notes about sacrifice. This is something a lot of people forget about or even overlook.
Thank you so much Julia! The 5-minute rule usually always works for me 🙂
I am so inspired by reading this, thank you for sharing this! I will try all these points out! Like now I’m commenting because it takes less than 2 minutes! Thanks again!
Thank you so much Shefali! I appreciate the comment 🙂
I love your dedication to your goals and dreams. And you are so right – self-discipline is the thing that makes a difference in life. Motivation comes and goes, but sticking to the task and doing it with or without motivation is the key to success. Great post. Well done!
Thank you so much! 🙂
You have really a great routine
I am so inspired by your blog
Thats make me bring my best out .
Thanks
Thank you so much!
I really enjoyed your tips on how to manage it all. I would love to wash the dishes right after eating, but after preparing the meal, put the table, feeding the childten, myself and the husband, I usually want to run away from the kitchen… I guess I’m getting old and no energy! 🙁
I always hated dishes but I have turned them into a mindfulness practice and that helped me enjoy them all. I just focus on the feel/sound of the water and scent of the dish soap! Or I’ll watch a YouTube video while I do them 🙂
Oh wow ! This is by far, the most motivating and inspiring blog I’ve read ! Thank you for being ON POINT, and for encouraging me to really get down to establishing a lifestyle I will be proud of ! This is so very encouraging! I wish I could talk to you in person !
Thank you so much Marion! That’s amazing. Feel free to e-mail me any time 🙂
Hi Leila,
Thank you for giving me additional ammunition (and boost) for being a full time happy houseband and father of two.
In search for a freer, happier and simpler life, my wife and I quit our jobs and life in the U.S. and moved to Europe, two young kids in tow, two summers ago for a family gap year First stop Spain.
Now, my wife works a bit and I am still happily unemployed but have more quality time with our children.
I find that I have less time now than when I was working and that the only way to get things done and keep my sanity is to plan things out as you have explained in the post.
Big Smile!
http://www.freeelectrons.family
That’s so cool! I love that you blog as well that’s super exciting. My goal is to quit my job soon too and travel a bit and live life for me! Props to you and your wife for taking control even with children! Thank you for reading 🙂
Nicely done Leila!
I’m really at this point of my life where I am aware that there’s a lot of things to be done but I don’t know where or how to start.
I find your post helpful and I’m so glad that I finished reading it.
Starting is the hardest part! I’m glad you found my post helpful and thank you so much for reading 🙂
Loved your blog! I never read any. But yours was perfectly put. I hope to read more of your blogs. Thank you
Madelean
Thank you so much Madelean 🙂
Love this post! This is pretty much me right now plus a kid!
Keep up the great work!
Thank you so much! Same to you 🙂
Hello Leila,
Thank you for sharing your routine!! I am working full time and TRYING to get my Master’s. It’s been hard balancing the gym and school after working full-time. Thank you for sharing such a detailed schedule. I will try to prioritize those 2-3 hours for school like you do for your side hustles.
Thanks for reading and commenting Megan! I always struggled with doing school work too because studying and writing papers just is not fun lol. Best of luck to you, you got this! 🙂
Just what I needed to read! Im curious: I am 33, single mom and dating for over a year now. Do you only spend Saturday with your boyfriend? I find it very hard to combine everything. I really would like to do how you do it but so curious how your relationship fits in?
Thank you for reading! 😊 And yes that’s correct, I typically only spend time with my boyfriend on the weekends. So I usually get less work done. He’ll eventually move in with me but he understands that my businesses are a priority to me. During the week we usually Facetime for a bit at night!
Great post. I do agree with several others that when I was raising my kids my motivation, dedication and goals focused around raising them. I loved doing that and it was truly rewarding. Now that I am an empty nester, I’m very excited about getting back to things you are doing in your post and having mostly self directed goals again.
That’s great Carrie! I’m excited for you 😊❤
Just Wow ! So much I can learn from your post. Will explore your website more. Definitely I can learn a lot from you.
I have one question for you, will be grateful for your opinion. Sometimes I know that a particular action will not be helpful for me but I just could not overcome the desire to not to do it. For example I know I should not eat junk food but my mind compels me to eat it it’s like a revenge on me. Similarly I know I should not watch TV series but still I watch it. It’s like I am being force to watch it. How to overcome such tendencies of my mind.
Best regards
Bhupesh
Thank you so much!
And good question, I totally understand because sometimes I still struggle with that. Our minds try to keep us “safe,” so doing anything uncomfortable or difficult will always be a challenge, unless you can build a habit to break that resistance.
I suggest first removing the temptations (don’t buy junk food at the grocery store, cancel cable/Netflix, etc.) if you really want to make a change. Then start developing positive habits to replace the bad ones, and start small. Just do ONE small thing each day that gets you closer to your goal. If it’s really difficult to give up those things, use those as rewards instead but in moderation. For example, after you eat healthy all day, you can treat yourself to dark chocolate. Or after you’re productive for at least 2 hours, you can reward yourself with a tv show. It takes a lot of practice and effort, there’s no real trick, it’s just a matter of self-control and doing what’s best for you! 🙂 Hopefully that makes sense/is helpful! Thank you for reading! ❤️
Great article! I stumbled upon this at the right time. I love the concept of the five minutes or less rule!
Thank you so much! And yes the 5 minute rule helps me so much to stay on top of things!
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Curious…how many hours of sleep do u get? I leave the house at 5:30am and get home from work at 8:40pm. This is 3-5 days per week. That leaves 8-9 hours out of 24 to eat, sleep, bath, and not much else. I am 50. When i was 25 i could get by on 2-4 hours of sleep. I had 2 kids then 3 back then too. I am currently a full time MBA student and would LOVE to do side hustles and go back to the gym but years of not sleeping and some not so great genetics gave be some early chronic disease. I see u eat healthy and exercise, but you don’t mention sleep. Please improve the life of 50 year old you in the future and do t forget 7-8 hours of sleep a night! You have a really great blog though. Keep up the grate work❤️
That’s a great reminder, thank you 🙂
I typically sleep 6.5-7 hours a night. I recently bought a box fan to drown out the city noises and that has helped my sleep significantly!
I have made sleep more of a priority in my life because without it I feel it affect me mentally.
Thanks for taking the time to read and comment! 😊
Honestly thank you so much for this thorough post. I’ve been reading a lot blogposts in this topic but I gotta admit that neither of them was this useful as yours. Finally someone!!! Finally advices that are truly useful and can really be put in practice in my every day life.
I work full time as a production manager, while studying at law school, living with my man in our small household with 2 dogs, so I also have a lot on my plate to deal with.
Thanks again for your useful tips, I will definitely use them.
All my best: Kinga from Hungary
Thank you so much Kinga! I’m glad you found it helpful ❤
Thanks for this post, really appreciate it ❣️
I’m also 25
Works 8-5 for 5 days
Drives 2 hrs per day total to and from work
I use a diary and create a to-do list for each day
-Wants to continue school
-Wants to start a family because my husband is dying to get his baby
-want to exercise
– wants to attend a public speech meeting
– want to do a side hustle
I am just too tired and motivated to do it all
I’ll continue reading your posts and others to start my journey
Commuting is the worst! I hope you can have a shorter one soon!
Baby steps are still steps so just keep going 😊
Thank you for reading!
Hey!
So I saw in the comments that you sometimes hit a wall or basically like you said “half to take a step back for a moment”, I was curious how often you find yourself ever feeling burnout and if you had any tips or tricks you use to either help prevent it or aid in recooping whenever that happens? I have pushed myself so hard working 10 hrs a day M-F managing 3 departments by myself and still being able to my personal life responsibilities and basically Saturday’s only catching up on rest and hibernating. I am taking way more than I should but am trying to make smarter changes to make things easier. Right now it’s effecting my health but desire to make something of myself in life or succeed at my goals is my first priority. Do you ever do brain dumps or heard of those? I haven’t but know am positive i could use one lol! I am really trying to stay focused on just finding smarter routes (Which this post helped with). I also want to learn to how to manage stress or easy solutions to balance or release some of it throughout the day. I appreciate any feedback! Thanks! :))
Hi Megan!
Yes. I absolutely experience burnout and ruts, I’m actually currently in one!
I definitely do brain dumps so I can get stupid little stressors down on paper and plan them into my schedule to get done.
I usually take a step back from consuming too much content (social media, YouTube videos, podcasts) and focus on my own thoughts and improving my mindset.
A good workout always helps release stress for me. I love hot showers too (or a bath if you have a tub). And if you can find people or even videos that make you laugh that always puts me in a better mood!
Just take everything one step at a time and create routines to optimize your life.
I am the type of person who puts too much on their plate and then feel stressed because of it lol. It’s still something I’m working on but you have to schedule relaxation and down time into your weeks and ACTUALLY RELAX to experience the benefits!
Let me know when you add kids in there. I am up at 5:30 to get myself And them ready. Commute 45 minutes work 8-5 come home do dinner dishes, homework and time for husband…I know there is magical “me” time I just don’t have it at 9pm when all else is done
Meghan,
This is just a season of your life at the moment. You don’t have to take on more if you can’t.
For now just do what you can and make the most of it.
You could integrate learning/personal development while you commute, maybe a short family walk after dinner for some exercise, and then a bit of “you” time on the weekend.
It’s not all or nothing! Then when your season changes, you can make more time for the things you want to.
❤️
This was very informative! Love it ! Thanks 💗
Thanks Ellie 😊
Wow, this article is priceless. It spoke on a personal level. Thanks
Thanks Mirriam 😊 Glad you liked it!
I just couldn’t stop reading
I finally found someone with my kind of personality
Thank you Leila, I loved every bit of your write up and got lots of inspiration