Some days I’m not in the right mindset.
I may feel negative and/or unmotivated which causes me to feel frustrated due to my inability to feel optimistic or focused.
I don’t like to feel that way.
While I do think it’s important to feel and understand my emotions, I prefer to get out of that negative space so I can get back to creating and thinking better thoughts.
As I’ve developed as a person, I’ve recognized that there are a few things that I always fall back to when I need to uplevel my mindset.
These 5 things can usually get me going again and drown out any darkness:
1. Motivational talks/speeches/videos
Motivation (especially external motivation) does not last. I am aware of that and mention that in many of my blog posts.
However, seeking some drive via motivational speeches can be very valuable.
On YouTube and Spotify, you can find thousands of free motivational pieces.
The one’s I prefer to listen to usually have some intense background music. Some people may think they’re corny, but it seriously helps to shift my thoughts.
Here are some of my favorites (including a playlist short talks on Spotify):
If those videos aren’t your style, I suggest listening to Gary V, Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, or whoever you look up to.
Here are some of those:
2. Practice gratitude
There is so much in life that we tend to take for granted.
When I’m feeling down, it’s usually because I’m putting thoughts in my head that make me feel that way.
Things may not be how I want them to be or what I expected, but that’s OK and I have to remind myself of that.
Gratitude shifts my mindset from scarcity to abundance. There is just so much good in life and there is usually something good in bad situations as well.
I try to practice gratitude daily, but if I’m feeling particularly negative, I’ll either write down or think of a long list of all the things I’m grateful for.
3. Planning/Brainstorming ideas
Planning and coming up with ideas gets me excited. It’s little things to look forward to.
I usually will plan blog posts or videos, but this can also include planning workouts, trips, or big projects.
It puts purpose and creativity back into my mind and I can get back on track.
I always keep my planner and notebook nearby so I can start jotting things down. This also gives you some control over the next steps and frees your mind from clutter.
4. Talk it out
If I’m in a space of self-doubt or negativity, I often turn to my boyfriend for support.
He ALWAYS reminds me of how much I’ve accomplished, how I should be grateful, and how proud he is. This helps SO much.
Whether I’m having a small moment of stress or a large break down, I can go to him to talk to.
For you this may be apparent, sibling, friend, or even therapist.
Don’t underestimate the power of talking things out because sometimes we just need someone to listen and lift us up a little bit.
It’s important to go to someone who can show you the other side of things so that after the “talk” (or at least by the next day), you feel completely refreshed.
5. Accomplish something
I don’t know about you, but when I’m feeling negative or super unmotivated I tend to procrastinate or not do as much as I planned on doing.
This doesn’t help me AT ALL.
I know that when I get things done I feel amazing about myself.
So I’ll literally talk to myself:
“Alright, Leila. Just sit down and get this done no matter what.”
Then I start and finish and I feel damn good.
Like I said, motivation doesn’t last and there are going to be many times where you have to push through the discomfort and just show up.
Leaving things undone will only make you feel worse.
We all have bad days, but this is why it’s important to figure out what helps you feel better so you can overcome them.
There are better days ahead and every second is a new opportunity. Always remember that.